How to order nothing and be okay.

Recently, I went out to dinner and did something I pretty much never, ever do.

I ordered nothing.

That’s right. Nothing. I drank water.

No, it wasn’t because there were no vegan options. There were plenty. It wasn’t that that food didn’t look or smell good. Indeed, the smell of sautéed onions and Thai curry could be enjoyed a full block before arriving. I ordered nothing because, well, actually for a couple of reasons.

The night before we had come to the same restaurant and I had ordered some vegan Thai fried rice and another yellow curry rice dish. Both were amazing. Delicious. Vegan.

Both were also not healthy by any stretch of my hungry imagination. No matter how bad I wanted to believe they weren’t, both dishes were full of sodium, oil and perhaps even MSG. All of which combined to make me feel pretty crappy when I woke up the next morning.

While I love supporting restaurants that offer vegan fare, I very seldom eat out. It’s just too difficult to make good choices. Assuming you even have good choices to make.

But sometimes real life gets in the way of even the best laid plans. In this instance, we were on vacation in Bend, OR. We were meeting friends for dinner. We had my in-laws staying with us. We all jumped on our bikes and rode down to check out the local food trucks and enjoy a cold beer.

So there I was, pedaling to the restaurant on a warm summer night, enjoying the company of friends and family. Though I would have preferred to prepare food at home, because, you know, I hate eating out,  I also understand the allure of dining out in some instances.

Then I had a decision to make.

The thing about restaurant food…

Spoiler alert: restaurant food isn’t healthy. I know, right? I bet you had no idea. It’s true though. You would never cook the way a restaurant does at home. You would never use that much salt or oil. Restaurants prepare food in such a way that it appeals to everyone (makes sense, right?). So additional sodium and fat are added to every dish in the form of oil, butter and/or salt to make a highly, even hyper palatable food.

Oh, and also…

There was also another issue with going out to dinner on this night that I forgot to mention…I wasn’t hungry. I ate a late lunch only a few hours before. It was a big lunch following a big ride. I was still very full.

Typically, I would eat anyway. I wouldn’t want anyone to feel uncomfortable. Because they do. When the server turns to you for your order and you say you don’t want anything, it makes people uncomfortable. I’m not sure exactly why this is, but it happens.

I don’t like to make people uncomfortable. I want everyone to have a good time. I’m a people-pleaser and also outstanding at avoiding conflict. So I would have typically ordered something rather than order nothing. Then I would have eaten it, simply because it’s in front of me, and I would have regretted it afterward. But this time I didn’t.

I declined to order and told everyone that asked the truth. At least the partial truth. I wasn’t hungry. Simple as that.

It wasn’t a big deal. Truthfully, no one really cared that much. Sure, there were questions. But then everyone kind of forgot about it. Then we talked and laughed as the sun set in Bend on another blissful day of riding bikes and hanging out with friends and family.

The lesson is this.

I learned something from this experience that I wanted to share. If you’re not hungry, order nothing. If you’re at a restaurant that doesn’t offer the food you want, don’t order anything. Going without for exactly one meal isn’t the end of the world. Believe me, we could all stand to skip a meal now and then. Truthfully, it felt kind of good to go without.

Of course, since we were there for a couple of hours, I did eventually end up with an appetite. I whipped up a quick but decadent meal at our rental house when we returned, complete with everything I wanted and nothing I didn’t. No added fat or salt. The next day I woke up feeling great, rather than puffy and bloated from overeating copious amounts of added oil, salt and who knows what else.

Truth be told, there are a gazillion roadblocks out there on the road to eating a healthy vegan diet. Our society isn’t exactly set up to cater to those that choose to eat as optimally as possible. Of course it’s the opposite. Companies want to sell the food they make the most amount of money on…and that, for the most part, is not whole, fresh, organic fruits and vegetables.

It likely won’t become easier any time soon. There will be no multi-million dollar marketing budgets for bananas or red leaf lettuce. There will be more, not less, restaurants opening with nothing but highly processed and unhealthy entrees on their menu.

The lesson here is this: listen to your body. Don’t eat when you’re not hungry. Don’t eat food that makes you feel bad that you don’t want. If it comes down to skipping an occasional meal, your world will not end.

Heck, it might even feel good.